Theme: Family & Relationships

Can We Chill? Identifying and Establishing Boundaries In Relationships

by Wesley K. Thomas

This lesson addresses experiences of known but undisclosed interpersonal boundaries occurring within relationships among Black, same-gender-loving men. Participants are invited to explore and identify their own boundaries, while reflecting on ways to safely express them as needed, while respecting others’ boundaries in return.


By the end of this lesson, participants will be able to:

  • Identify and articulate three boundaries they regularly assert or wish to assert within their interpersonal relationships.
  • Create one strategy for asserting an interpersonal relationship boundary.
  • Express one reason why respecting one’s own and others’ boundaries is important.

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Group Size

This lesson is written for 12 participants and one facilitator. While it can be adapted for smaller groups, it should not be used for groups larger than 15 participants. A second facilitator is encouraged for groups larger than eight participants.


70 minutes


Lined paper and pencils
Newsprint or dry erase board
Colored paper
Printed handouts